Monday, 30 April 2012

Being a stay at home mum

Over the weekend i saw the age old debate of working mum vs stay at home mum raging on twitter. Of course its not a new debate but its still very emotive one. After reading Rach's post on the matter, i thought i would do my own from the perspective of a SAHM.

Becoming a SAHM was a choice for me, i chose to do it because i didn't want to leave Seb with someone else, i wanted to be there to see his first words, steps etc. It wasn't my original plan to stay at home but i changed my mind. I think alot of people feel its an easy option where you can sit on your bum and watch tv all day and i'm sure some mums do this day in and day out but i'm not one of them. The way i see it is i chose to stay at home and therefore i will give Seb a mixture of experiences be it from the mundane walk around Asda to venturing into the wild world of soft play, we also do lots of activities at home from painting to cornflour play.  Everything we do together teaches my little sponge something and i get to see him learning these things and watch him change from a baby into a child in front of my very eyes. 

Financially things can sometimes be tight. I am the girl who used to spend at least £100 on clothes and make up every weekend and the rest on going out but having a baby changed me, i still love clothes and make up but i only buy things i love instead of wasting my money on things i will never use. It is weird going from having your own earnings to not having them, of course it is, its a big change but so is having a baby! I feel i make a valuable contribution to our home by simply being there, raising Seb, making sure we have food, keeping everything clean and organised, preparing decent meals the list goes on.

Just as you have bad days at work, you have bad days at home where your little angel is paddying non stop and you have told them at least 100 times not to touch the wires as its dangerous, and then they throw your lovingly prepared food on the floor and poo in the bath, on these days you can't wait for bedtime so you can have a glass or two of wine just the same as you can't wait to escape work to do the same thing!

I will of course be going back to work once Seb and bump are older, using the qualifications that i worked hard to get but for now i am more then happy to stay at home.

Lets face it we are all different, I know other mums who would love to stay at home but can't, i also know others who love going back to work and feel it gives them time to be themselves again and have adult conversations rather then a slave to their child. If a child is being well  looked after and it works for them then thats great. Its a shame that we all judge others on their choices, lets be honest we all do it to some extent(i certainly do), be it on this issue or another parenting issue but until we have walked in someone elses shoes we can't really say how they should live their life.

Sunday, 29 April 2012

We're back

Well we went to Haven last week and had a fab time, i definately recommend going for a cheap holiday with little ones. I wasn't sure what to expect as i had never been anywhere like this before(Butlins adult weekends don't count!) but it was lovely, our caravan was bigger then i ever expected, the staff were friendly and it was incredibly clean.

Sadly we didn't get to the beach as the weather was awful for us but it looked nice!
Seb was entertained by the soft play, swimming pool, shows and rides
Food was also great, there was a kitchen in our caravan with everything you could need but also a fish and chip shop on site(proper seaside food), as well as a pub which served breakfast with the characters, lunches and dinners as well as huge sundaes

We've already talked abvout going again next year, it would be really easy to take a baby there and Seb would be able to join in more of the activities, as they also had kids clubs etc
So thumbs up to Haven! 

Friday, 20 April 2012

Severe lack of motivation

In the words of Bruno Mars "Today i don't feel like doing anything"

As soon as i woke up this morning i knew it was going to be one of those days, i didn't want to get out of bed but obviously the child shouting mimmy(i'm not mama anymore) at me from his cot needed to be tended too.
There are so many things i should be doing today
  • Cleaning
  • Sorting out what we are taking to Haven and making sure its all washed/dry
  • Cooking something healthy for dinner
  • Tackling the washing pile
  • Sorting out Sebs toys which are taking over
The list goes on, however instead i have sat and watched daytime tv(did anyone see Jezza this morning? Has he really slept with over 2000 women?!), got some soup out of the ice box for lunch and a mini fish pie out for Sebs dinner, watched some more daytime tv and am now on my laptop mindlessly browsing.
The food shop is being delivered later, that is something i can say i've achieved!

Am i the only one that has days like this?
Pre children, i enjoyed days like these, obviously with working and partying these days were few and far between and they were a luxury.
But now actually hate them, i have no motivation to get off my bum and do anything even though there is so much to do and i feel like i'm being terrible to Seb by leaving him on the floor to play with his toys(not that he seems to mind).

Tell me i'm not a terrible mother?!

Wednesday, 18 April 2012

How and when do you find the time to.....MEME

I have been tagged in a Meme by Leopard Print Mommy.

Essentially it is a bit of sneak peak into the daily lives of other bloggers and is fabulous because it's a great excuse to ask those questions that you always wanted to know but never dared ask.

So, let's cut to the chase shall we!

Here are the rules:
1. Please post the rules (Visions of Fight Club are popping into my mind...)
2. When answering the questions, give as much information as possible. It's all about the finer details people!!
3. Leave a comment on Sex, drugs, rocker...and stroller, baby. This is so we can keep track of the Meme and take a polite nose into everyone else's lives! Mwhaha!
4. Tag 3 or more people and link to them on your blog.

How and when do you find the time to.... your laundry?
Washing is the bane of my life, i never seem to get to the bottom of it. I usually put a load on pretty much every day and then when the sun comes out i do about 3 loads in one day as i can actually get it dry quickly.

...write a blog post?
I usually do it when Seb has a nap in the afternoon. If Phil is working late, i will come on once Seb is in bed and schedule some posts.

...look after yourself i.e. wash your hair, paint your nails, take a bubble bath etc.
To shower and wash my hair in the morning i shove Seb in his cot with a load of toys and do things as quickly as i can. I paint my nails in the evening, usually every other day. I have a long bath at least once a week once Sebs in bed, its heaven.

...spend time with your other half?
In the evenings once Seb is in bed, Phil doesn't work regular days or shifts so we don't get weekends together very often which is a pain as thats the only time that anyone can babysit Seb. fun stuff with your LO?
All the time, we're always playing. I tend to do proper activities(painting etc) a couple of times a week and we go to the park, soft play, library, swimming etc too.

...spend time with your family?
I go to my parents house most weekends when Phil is working, i love how much they enjoy spending time with Seb and he in turns loves them. Me and my parents are very close and i want Seb to grow up being close to them too. I have two older brothers and an older sister who i see sporadically, its hard to get everyone together as everyone is busy with family, work and life in general.

...socialise with friends?
I find this hard, especially as my closest friend has recently moved to Wales. We keep in contact but can no longer go out for lunch/dinner or meet for a drink.

..prepare an evening meal juggling a baby/toddler bedtime routine?
Seb is generally pretty laid back so i'm lucky that this is fairly easy. He either eats with us so obviously its all cooked at the same time or if Phil is working late he will sit in his highchair reading books and dancing to music while i prepare dinner for me and Phil.

...deep clean your house?
Erm we obviously clean but deep cleaning is not a regular event! Am i a terrible mother?! the food shopping?
Its done online with Tesco, usually on a Wednesday night to be delivered on a Friday. We do get top ups(bread etc) in the week from Morrisons or Asda. bulk ironing?
I don't iron! Phil is a brilliant ironer so its his job.

I tag everyone who hasn't already been tagged as i think alot of people have been tagged in this already.

Monday, 16 April 2012

Little wriggler

Well the scan went brilliantly :) I've been put back to 11+4 which i was half expecting but everything was perfect, baby was kicking and flipping and squirming about and had a lovely strong heartbeat. I was hoping for a nub shot to see if we could guess the gender but no such luck :)

Sunday, 15 April 2012

Twelve weeks

Well today i have reached 12 weeks. I can't believe how quickly the last few weeks have gone, it just seems to have flown by, my stomach is growing, i was retaining water but thats gone and now a bump is coming even though bump is around the size of a lime. My boobs are also huge, they feel so full and heavy, and i really need to get some new bras.
I actually feel really good, i'm glad the morning sickness stayed away this time, i've had a little dizziness but only on a few days where i haven't had enough to drink. I've also had heartburn a couple of times, i have some Rennies and will get some Gaviscon from the doctors when i get the chance to go up there. I'm still getting bouts of tiredness but its not as bad as it was a few weeks ago thank god so i feel like a much better mum to Seb!

We have been naughty and have already been buying a few little bits, i'll have to do a post soon as its so tiny and sweet! We are planning on getting a crib but are now thinking of just getting a new cot as Sebs is ruined anyway so we will need a new one.

Tomorrow afternoon i have my scan, i've got that nervous and excited feeling. Last time i was convinced they would say that i had made a mistake, i wasn't pregnant at all. This time i don't have that worry, but i am scared of there being no heartbeat or just of something being terribly wrong. On the flipside i am so excited about seeing our baby dancing away, and getting that massive rush of emotions that comes with it. I think my dates will change, i am currently due 28th October but i think they will put me back a week or so as my cycles were quite irregular.
I've got my pound coins ready so will hopefully be back with a lovely clear scan picture tomorrow.


Saturday, 14 April 2012

Mums 101

I was tagged by Honeysmummy to take part in Mums 101, a meme where you can vent about the top 3 annoyances about being a mum. At first i thought this would be hard, but actually its easy!

1. The breastfeeding vs formula feeding debate. This drives me mad, i tried to breastfeed and it didn't work out, so i switched to formula and have a very healthy boy. We are lucky enough in this country to have an educated choice. As long as a baby is fed and healthy does it really matter?

2. People who look back with rose tinted spectacles. "My child never had a tantrum/was potty trained by 3 months etc". Whatever!

3. People hogging the pushchair space on the bus. We use buses alot and people are so bloody rude. In the last couple of weeks, i have seen a woman refusing to fold her(empty) buggy so that someone else could get on with a pushchair and another woman who wouldn't turn her pushchair around so that we could get on with our pushchair . Seriously why are people so rude, i always go out of my way for other people and it pisses me off that others are so ignorant. I'm too much of a wuss to speak up especially when the bus drivers just shrug their shoulders and won't back you up.

I tag everyone in this, its very theraputic! Remember to link back to Never Bored of Bubbles so people can come and read the other posts.


Thursday, 12 April 2012

Palmers Giveaway!

I promised this a couple of weeks ago but with being ill it got delayed.
I love Palmers products so much that i recently dedicated a whole post to them, so i wanted to have a mini giveaway for my readers.

I'm giving away
1 tube of Palmers Bottom Butter
1 tube of Palmers Lil Face Butter (not usually available in the UK)There will also be a little something in there for mum.

To enter you need follow my blog and you must be in the UK.

All you need to do is comment on this blog post to enter with a contact email address.

If you want an extra entry then you can tweet about my giveaway including my twitter username @sebsmummy and a link to my blog or this post. Let me know you have done this in the comments with your twitter username.

Giveaway closes at midnight on 19th April and i will pick a name from the hat, email the winner and announce it on here.



Monday, 2 April 2012

Review: Marmite Toddler Rice Cakes

When i saw these on sale in our local Boots i knew i had to get them. Neither me or Phil like Marmite so we don't have it in the house but i thought Seb would enjoy a new flavour to try.

These retail at £1.10 for a bag which is about average for a pack of toddler rice cakes. They are suitable from the age of 12 months and are are free from preservatives, colours and artificial flavours, all things we like to hear as parents. They are also rich in Vitamin B.
They are a fab size for small hands, and actually look quite appealing as they have more colour to them compared to similar items from other brands!
Now i haven't tasted them as i dislike Marmite but Seb seems to think they are pretty tasty.I love these as i'm always looking out for new savoury snacks for Seb as i don't give him crisps yet so these fill that gap well.

Has anyone else tried these?

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