The topic of age gaps between siblings has always interested me. I am the youngest of four children by eight years which was great in many ways but sometimes I feel I missed out on some of the closeness of growing up together that my brothers and sister had.
I knew I wanted my own children fairly close together. There is just under 2 years between Seb and Alex, I found pregnancy quite hard going second time around as I suffered with bad sickness along with the usual tiredness, combined with running around after a toddler. Once Alex was born, I found the first couple of months pretty hard too, although Seb accepted his brother without issue, the constant needs of a newborn sho hated to be put down, along with making sure I split myself between both boys was difficult, tears were shed. Of course it all clicked into place and got much easier but as with everything we still had odd phases of difficulty. These days the boys are inseparable and to be honest I find it pretty easy.
When this baby is born Seb will be nearly five and a half and Alex will be three and a half. I really like that we have a bigger gap this time. The boys are able to safely entertain themselves if I am feeling tired, they don’t need lots of picking up, or fight constantly. Their ages mean that I can really involve them in pregnancy, especially Seb who really understands and talks about the baby all the time which is just lovely.
I don’t think there is a perfect age gap between children, each gap has it’s benefits and drawbacks and you make it work because you don’t have any other choice.